Hello There

Meet Tammy

My Professional Bio

Tammy is a writer, speaker, coach, and counselor.

She earned a Master’s Degree in Counseling from Denver Seminary and her passion is helping women recover from trauma, PTSD, as well as helping wives heal from betrayal. Her focus is to help them get unstuck, discovering ways to live with purpose, joy, and confidence so they are free to move forward and leave their past behind. Tammy is the founder and director of LiveFree Counseling in Colorado, a counseling center specializing in trauma recovery.

As a counselor…

Tammy has over a decade of experience. She is an EMDR Certified Therapist and a Consult in Training (CIT) through the EMDR International Association. She completed Bessel van der Kolk’s Certificate Program in Traumatic Stress Studies and is a certified NeurOptimal Neurofeedback Trainer.

As a coach…

Tammy has helped women across the nation heal from their husband’s sexual betrayal in marriage. She comes alongside women and guides them as they navigate the painful, confusing, and sometimes counter-intuitive path towards healing.

As a speaker and writer…

Tammy has shared with hundreds of people on the topics of healing from betrayal, understanding and managing the effects of trauma, setting healthy boundaries, and other mental health issues. She connects easily with audiences through her authenticity, humor, and compassion.

My Personal Story

Here’s my story and why I do what I do…

While my career has largely been focused on trauma and PTSD, my passion for helping wives heal from betrayal is a combination of my professional experience and my own personal journey. It’s a path I never thought I’d walk myself.

Here’s my story and why I do what I do…

In 2015, my life turned upside down. I was married and loved my husband. I knew my marriage wasn’t perfect, but it felt pretty close to that for me. And then in a moment, everything changed.

I learned my husband had betrayed me.

The marriage and life I thought I knew were shattered. The security I felt crumbled. Every insecurity inside of me started screaming. And it left me scared and feeling very alone. The more I learned about his betrayal, the farther it pushed our marriage towards divorce.

I know what it’s like to feel hopeless and helpless. As I was trying to find my footing, my emotions were all over the place. I went from fear to anger, shame to sadness, and everything in between.

It was only after we started counseling that I began to see the bigger picture. I started understanding that his choices were not my fault. I watched him embrace the counseling process, and I saw him dig deep to get sober, understand why he did what he did, and how to live with integrity. I embraced my emotions and leaned into my own healing and grieving process as well. Slowly, over time, he began to rebuild the trust that had been fractured.

Today, our marriage is deeper, healthier, and more authentic than ever. It’s not perfect and there are scars, but we have healed and it is good. I love him. I am no longer angry at him. It is possible.

And it’s my own journey that ignited a passion in me to help other wives with similar stories find healing. My personal story coupled with extensive training and experience in the area of trauma gives me the unique skill set to help you navigate the complexities of healing from betrayal – with or without your husband. I offer strength, guidance, and compassion while empowering you to find your voice, trust your gut, set healthy boundaries, and reclaim your worth and value.

Healing is possible. I’m living proof of that truth! There is also the opportunity for deeper personal and spiritual growth than you thought possible. Strength. Freedom. Purpose. Joy. Beauty. Adventure. There is good life ahead for you.

I would be honored to walk this path with you whether through coaching, counseling, Paris retreats, writing, or speaking. You are not alone. Email me or send me a message. I’d love to connect with you.

Contact Me

Nathaniel and Tammy Gustafson 2020

Client Love

What they're saying

I began working with Tammy when I discovered my husband’s betrayal of our 35-year marriage. Tammy has helped me navigate through some of the darkest days of my life by assisting me in gathering tools to utilize and helping me think properly about my healing and recovery. Establishing boundaries, prioritizing self-care and self-protection, extending forgiveness, and learning how to love myself again have been invaluable to me in this healing process. Tammy has been by my side every step of the way. - LA
From my very first session, Tammy began to show me that the pain, humiliation, and anger of my husband's betrayal did not have to define my identity in the future.  Throughout this difficult healing process, Tammy has been trustworthy and has made me feel seen and understood. - BF
Working with Tammy around betrayal trauma has been a massive part of my healing journey. Tammy has an incredible gift of listening to my needs and where I am in the process. Her expertise, along with her wisdom and life experience, offer me a safe place to share and I know she cares as she coaches me through invaluable steps towards healing. - KR